Not to be outdone by Gina’s post “Mom-Fails”, dad also fails big time! Yeah, that’s right, I know what you’re thinking: “Not you, Leland. You can’t fail. You’re too awesome.” But sadly, I fail. Daily. I too often enter into the social media world while leaving my wife and child sitting at the table in mid-conversation. I frequently read articles on ESPN or Reuters instead of engaging with Adalyn. It’s not uncommon for me to be short and rude with Adalyn (and Gina) after a long day of ministry. I fail, and regularly have to ask forgiveness from my daughter and my wife.
And that’s the great thing, too. I do fail. I’m not perfect. And I don’t have to be. Our God gives us grace and mercy. And I’m blessed to have a wife and daughter who do the same. I’m learning to do better, to be more engaged and in the moment. I’m learning to prioritize actual relationships over digital ones. I’m learning that it is far more sacred to play matchbox cars and wrestle than it is to look up the scores to the latest sporting event. And in this process of learning, God is changing me. Adalyn and Gina are changing me. I pray I’m being transformed into the image of Jesus – the same Jesus who was not too busy to engage children, prostitutes, his friends, and the crowds.
In a way, I’m thankful for my failures. How else do we become better if we don’t first learn from mistakes? My failures remind me that it isn’t about me; that I can never be good enough. And that I have a God (and a family) who loves me!
So for anyone out there who doesn’t fail – this post isn’t for you. But if you find yourself failing on a regular (or occasional) basis, here’s a tip: humbly confess, seek forgiveness, and then share your failures. God’s power is made perfect in our weakness.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. – 2 Corinthians 12:9-10